On a day like today you might be spending it with family and friends or you can be spending it thinking about the past memories.

This Easter I am doing the latter one. Due to unseen circumstances this years Easter is not like what I am use to. One is off to college, one is helping with family matters and the rest of us is left to pick up the pieces and have an Easter like we aren’t use to.

Strange thing about memories are they like to sneak up on you when you least expect it. I am looking back on when my guys were little waking up having breakfast, going to church and having dinner with family. Recently I have been having these times of thinking of past memories of when I was little. Trying to think of any memory of that I had spent with my mom. They aren’t really coming to mind. I am thinking about my kids and their time when they were little. Not to say I didn’t have Easters with my mom, but they were spent with having a meal with family and sometimes I got to spend it with a weekend of being with her. I remember having Easter with my dad, step mom (but she is my mom) and siblings. Having breakfast together, going to church and having dinner as a family and with family. Sound familiar…

There just seems to be so many changes happening these past few months that seem to make these memories come up when you least expect them to. I know change is necessary part of life, but it doesn’t stop you from having these feelings.

These past few months have been a bite of a challenge with my mom. I never thought we would be where we are at with her care or who she is at this point of our adventure. I am dealing with what was said the best I can with what came up over past memories that I didn’t realize I had. That is what is strange about this lovely thing I call dementia. This adventure can take you up, down, over, around and upside down in a way you never thought it would go. Just remember to go with the punches, crying is perfectly fine, take care of yourself while you are taking care of your loved one and remember you are not alone.