No matter how many Mother’s Day’s you have been through the hardest has to be when you have lost a mother. Now I haven’t lost my mother yet, but the dementia adventure makes you think how close that is versus being further away.

My Mother’s Day’s have never been normal per-say. I have two mother’s since I was in elementary school. Then when I got married I added a mother so three mother’s total is what I have. They are all special in their own way and I am a lucky girl.

I said that all my mothers are special in their own way just a sentence ago and that is so true. Then I became a mom which is an amazing journey in its self and my moms became grandmothers.

Grandmothers and dementia you wouldn’t think that would be something you would need to explain to your kids. In the past five years has been where I have been there for my kids and how they have felt with their grandmother having dementia. Not only do I have to deal with my feelings I worry about their feeling and how they are doing. Dementia doesn’t just affect one person, but the whole family.

I did mention earlier in a previous post that I am part of the sandwich generation. Which I am still taking care of my family and kids and now taking care of my mother as well. I never thought we would be where we are at this time frame. There is a lot of that going around with where my mother is at in her journey of dementia. I have learned that you need to meet them where they are in their journey. Which is hard at times since this can be dealing with people you have never met or just don’t remember them. And your loved one thinks they are still around just like they remember them from the last time they saw them. This is where I wish I could talk to my mom and ask her about her own mom, but that is not possible.

So as this year’s Mother’s Day approaches it become surreal with time. Time is always running away it feels like it is so fast then it feels so slow. The key here is what you do with the time you have left. So as I have these mixed feelings I need to remember to use my time wisely and enjoy the time we have together. Years from now that after she has passed I will look back on these times together and will feel good that we all used our time wisely.

I would like to wish all the mothers out there a Happy Blessed Mother’s Day!